When a baby dies, hopes and dreams are shattered and lives are forever changed. Initial feelings of shock and confusion are combined with questions. What happened? Why me? Many times the lack of answers to these questions adds to the overwhelming feelings of grief and helplessness. These intense emotions are real and a normal part of grieving. Grief is a process of trying to cope with your loss and make meaning out of life without your baby. Grieving is not easy. It is long, unpredictable and requires a lot of patience. But it is necessary if you are to work through the pain toward healing. Dealing with the sudden, unexpected death of a baby to any cause is devastating – but in the case of a death for which no specific cause can be found, the lack of answers about why your baby has died can be overwhelming. We hope you will find some of the answers you are looking for here – and we can assure you that we will continue our research, advocacy and educational efforts to ensure that every baby is provided the best possible chance to survive and thrive. . . in the belief that every baby should live. First Candle Store.