It is important to remember that grief takes time. Be patient. Take life one moment, one hour and one day at a time. While you may never ‘get over’ the death of your baby, you can learn to live with your loss. Healing is an ongoing process. It does not happen overnight, but it will happen.
Eat well. Get plenty of rest. Stay well physically so that you can continue to heal emotionally.
Talk about your baby, your feelings, your fears, your grief. Keep a diary, write a journal, create a flower garden or other special project that has meaning to you. These things can help the overwhelming grief that comes with keeping feelings bottled up inside.
This may be your family, your friends or your faith community. You may want to contact a support group for parents who have experienced a similar loss to share your story and feelings nand to learn from others who have also ‘been there.’
If you are in a relationship, try to be understanding of your partner’s needs. There may be times when it is difficult to comfort each other. Being sensitive to your partner’s needs and finding others you can lean on during difficult times can helpful.
Last Updated: Jan 12, 2010