Leaving the hospital can be difficult. You may have a sad and empty feeling leaving without your baby. Seeing the nursery you had prepared or items that your friends and family had lovingly bought will be very hard, too. Sometimes well-meaning family or friends will want to remove these items before you come home. Let them know your wishes. Many parents find it helpful to go through the baby’s things together, at a time when they feel ready.

Seeing close friends and family for the first time may be hard. Seeing pregnant mothers and babies can also be painful. Your loss is so new that you should remember to be patient with yourself. Know that, in time, the pain will lessen, but holidays and the anniversaries of your baby’s expected due date, birth date or death date can bring new waves of grief.

Talk with family and friends. Be honest and let them know how you feel. Cry when you need. Don’t hesitate to get professional counseling if you think it will help.

Last Updated: Nov 19, 2009